First of all, sorry for the absence over the last month… despite being determined to get more consistent with the frequency of my blog posts, life has just been really busy and exhausting and I have struggled to find the time, but I’m back and hope to do better from now on!!!
On to the current post!
I get fed up! Totally and utterly fed up! Every day, my house is a mess, my husband moans at me when he comes home, because he’s come home to a house that is a mess, and I have been here for the WHOLE day, or at least most of it, and it is in a worse state than when he left for work in the morning. The most annoying thing is that he is right. I somehow manage to achieve nothing, every day. Less than nothing most days! And I don’t understand how the seemingly achievable list of jobs that I need to get done, just to get the house looking acceptable… not even tidy and clean… just acceptable, by the end of the day has become so unachievable.
I have good days, where I get a little more done, and bad days where I get a lot less done, but most are bad days.
So I decided to note on my phone, everything that I did during the day yesterday from getting up, to going to bed. Now, this in itself could be a time consuming exercise, but I actually found that having the “notes” app open on my phone, and making a quick note as I moved from one task to another, added little or no time to my day. It was an interesting exercise, so I thought that I would share the results. I started by referring only to the nearest 5 mins, but quickly realised that it’s all the little 2 minute jobs that cause so many interruptions in the day, so the times became a little more specific. The post looks longer than it is, as most points are short.
My list of things I planned to do and jobs that I wanted to get done were very small & achievable. I simply planned to be at my parents house by 3pm to drop off the children so that I could go to the gym. Otherwise, I wanted to iron a (chef’s) jacket for the husband to wear to work, hang out the washing and put on another load, empty the bathroom, kitchen, recycling and food bins, and finish the washing up from the night before as well as keep on top of any washing up that I generated. If at all possible, I could maybe get all of this done before the children wake up….
Here it is
6.30am – Alarm went off – snoozed
6.45am – Got up. Put breast pump in steriliser and ran sterilising cycle. Ironed a work jacket for the husband.
7.30am – Made a coffee for the husband and woke him up. Finished ironing his jacket.
7.40am – Expressed milk
8.20am – Monkey woke up. Changed her nappy (MUST empty the bathroom bin, as the lid now wouldn’t close with all the nappies). Made her a bottle of milk. Continued expressing. Made breakfast for Monkey.
8.30am – Husband left for work, having walked the Dog.
8.45am – Woke up baby. Changed his nappy (MUST empty bathroom bin). Got pee’d on. Changed out of my PJ trousers into actual trousers. Changed baby.
9.00am – Fed baby. Took away Monkey’s breakfast things (while still feeding baby – to stop her from throwing food). Cleaned both Monkey & her High chair of breakfast food. Gave her some Duplo to play with in the high chair while I finished feeding baby. Then got into a game of her dropping her Duplo on the floor and me picking it up with my feet. This descended into chaos with her dropping pieces out of my reach and then having a mini tantrum in the high chair when I couldn’t reach to pass the pieces.
10am – ALREADY!! and baby was STILL feeding. And farting! Lots!
10.10am – The Dog started a barking competition with next doors dog! Gave Monkey a local tradesmens guide to ‘read’… got a “wow” reaction. She then resorted to singing “twinkle twinkle”.
10.40am – Monkey started getting restless and crying “Get Monkey Out”.
10.41am – Baby finished his morning feed (AT LAST). Settled him in his chair.
10.43am – Got Monkey out of her high chair and changed her nappy (MUST empty bin, as nappies were now having to be put next to bin as they won’t fit in).
10.45am – Got Monkey dressed. This took a while as she fought me for her socks, culminating in a tickle fight and then her climbing over my back.
10.55am – Changed Baby’s nappy (MUST EMPTY BIN – whole bathroom was now smelling of nappies) and outfit as he’d been sick. This included fascination with his tummy button by Monkey. Monkey then played on her scooter while I dressed Baby, and she ran over the dog’s feet, resulting in lots of barking.
11.05am – Cleaned high chair and put this and rug (an old blanket used underneath high chair to catch food) are put away.
11.06am – Finished getting dressed. No… Found a top, and then getting dressed was interrupted by Monkey bringing me her potty and saying that she needed a piddle. Sat her on the potty for about 3 minutes… No piddle…
11.12am – Finish getting dressed. Mainly…
11.14am – Received a phonecall from my Father-in-Law in Australia. Whilst on the phone to him, Monkey threw Duplo all over the living room, then emptied all of the clean nappies from their bags onto the bathroom floor. She then tried to put nappies on the Duplo children (they were slightly engulfed).
11.30am – Put socks and jumper on… dressed at last!!!
11.34am – Changed Baby’s nappy (MUST EMPTY BIN!!!!!) and outfit (AGAIN!) Interrupted by Monkey needing the potty again. Yet another false alarm. Finished re-dressing Baby.
11.46am – Let the dog out into the garden. Deal with Monkey’s tantrum because she isn’t allowed in the garden (it’s raining).
11.50am – Picked up and soothed grizzling baby. Whilst rocking baby, also physically restrained Monkey from opening a bag of balls (we have recently collapsed the playpen, which was used as a ball pit, to make room for a cot for baby when he grows out of his Moses basket). The refusal to allow her to open the bag of balls (and spread them all over the floor), resulted in another mini-tantrum and continuous whining of “open the balls now” repeatedly for about 2 minutes. She was soon distracted by trying to strap her Peppa Pig toy into her brothers car seat. The dog also attempted to have a fight through the fence with next doors dog (a regular occurrence whenever they are both in their respective gardens at the same time), with me running out into the garden to drag him away from the fence, which weakens by the day. Baby just about settled despite dog and child tantrums, so put him down in his chair.
12.00midday – Put Baby’s bottle in Steriliser and put kettle on to boil for his next feed. Stopped Monkey from ramming a dummy down Baby’s throat. Got a drink for Monkey. Replaced items in the recycling bin that the dog has removed and was walking around with in his mouth…Twice. Picked up Baby who was now fully crying. Monkey was playing on her rocking horse.
12.12pm – Put crying baby down to make up bottle feed. Put this in bowl to cool. Made Monkey’s lunch, and put her into her high chair with lunch. Ran cold water over bottle to try to get it to cool quicker, as baby was still crying and clearly hungry. Got some Dorito’s & dip out for me to eat. Balanced these on the arm of the sofa.
12.25pm – Fed Baby while Monkey ate her lunch.
12.42pm – Burped Baby. He still seemed hungry so put him on the boob for a top up. By now, Monkey had decided that my Doritos looked much more appetising than her lunch so I was now sharing these with her, as all of her food has been thrown on the floor for the dog.
12.53pm – Burped Baby again. By now he was in a cycle of drifting off to sleep only to wake again a little while later crying and arching his back. He appeared to have tummy ache. Thinking about it, this was probably my fault for making onion gravy with last nights dinner.
1.04pm – Baby was now asleep. Carefully put him in his chair trying not to wake him.
1.05pm – Phonecall from my Mum (to say that she was home and I could drop children to her any point from now so I could go to the gym).
1.07pm – Cleared up lunch things.
1.09pm – Finally made it to the loo. I had been bursting for ages!!
1.12pm – The Baby was now sleeping. I gave Monkey some fruit. While she ate this I started packing the going out bag. While getting nappies I also tidied up the nappies that Monkey had emptied all over the bathroom floor, and also put Duplo away in it’s box.
1.20pm – Took a video of Monkey to send to my brother in law (her favourite Uncle and flavour of the month/year) of Monkey “making” a present for him (from an old envelope, to which she adds some sticky banana finger marks). Sent video clip to him.
1.25pm – I realised that I had only had Doritos and salsa for lunch, which was probably not great when about to go to the gym… Had a piece of fruit followed by some cheese and then Ice Cream. During this time, Monkey was STILL eating her fruit. We eventually played a segment counting game with her tangerine, to get her to eat rather than squish the segments.
1.42pm – We had a battle over the appropriate use of cutlery when eating a Petit Filous. This ended up with Petit Filous EVERYWHERE!
1.45pm – I walked away in frustration and ate yet MORE ice cream,
1.50pm – Tidied up the lunch stuff and emptied the food bin. Looked for the 2nd baby bottle. Could not find it anywhere, so washed up the last one I used. How is it possible to lose a baby’s bottle???
2.00pm – Cleaned Monkey and the High Chair. This took a while, as she was rolling on the floor, resisting being cleaned.
2.05pm – Stripped Monkey. Again, this took a while and included some actions that resembled Yoga positions, squealing, and removing and replacing of socks.
2.10pm – Changed Monkey’s nappy again (MUST EMPTY BATHROOM BIN!!). More physical resistance from her, as she was much more interested in playing in the sink.
2.12pm – We (Monkey & I) both finally get round to our “morning” tooth brush. Once teeth are brushed, I needed to prise the toothbrush away from her, and a mini-tantrum ensues, including potty kicking.
2.15pm – Got Monkey dressed.
2.20pm – Put the steriliser on and dummy’s in the microwave. Finished packing the baby bag for my Mum’s.
2.23pm – FINALLY Emptied the bathroom bin.
2.26pm – The neighbours man they had trimming their hedge came into our front garden to collect all of the hedge trimmings, sending the dog into a mad barking frenzy which woke up Baby.
2.27pm – Just managed to get a load of washing into the machine before Baby started grizzling.
2.30pm – Packed my gym bag. Looked everywhere for my trainers…Finally found them in a bag I used ages ago.
2.45pm – Put Monkey’s shoes on. Take bottle and dummy out of steriliser and microwave. Realise that I haven’t packed a hairbrush. Look for hairbrush…
2.52pm – Realised that I hadn’t packed my gym card or £1 for the locker. Found those.
2.53pm – Got water bottle out.
2.54pm – Stopped for a chat with Baby who was busy coo’ing.
2.55pm – Monkey had now removed her shoes and unpacked half of my gym bag. She had put her shoes and some Duplo into the bag in place of my things. Removed these, checked for anything missing that I might not have seen, and re-packed the missing items.
2.57pm – Monkey had a tantrum because she wanted to put her shoes in my gym bag, and refused to put them on. Dog has now been barking for about 10 minutes solidly and I am starting to lose patience!!!
2.59pm – Put Baby in his car seat, but quickly realised he’d filled his nappy. Took him back out of car seat, and to the bathroom for a nappy change. Realised that when I emptied the bathroom bin, I had not replaced the bin bag. Went to kitchen to get replacement bin bag, and put this in the bin. Changed nappy, which was a shocker!!! Full outfit change was also required as a result.
3.05pm – Looked for car keys. Found them in my handbag after the 3rd time of looking (it was also the 1st place I looked), having also looked in all of the obvious places in the house.
3.10pm – Monkey had taken her shoes off again! The dog was STILL barking! Put Baby in his car seat.
3.12pm – Monkey is now sitting on her scooter pushing this around the room while wearing Daddy’s shoes. Have to chase her into the kitchen to get her and find that she had taken my purse into the kitchen and emptied the contents onto the kitchen floor.
3.14pm – Replace items in purse and have a battle with Monkey to get her shoes on, with her continuing to fight me off.
3.16pm – We were finally ready to go out of the door. Got both children into the car.
3.21pm – We are off the drive…
3.34pm – Arrived at my parents. Gave my Mum instructions on feeding etc. Had a brief chat.
3.43pm – Leave my parents to go to town
3.55pm – Searched for parking.
4.01pm – Parked car, got money from cashpoint. Went to 2 shops neither of whom had the item I needed to make my husbands anniversary present.
4.14pm – Left the town centre to drive to the gym.
4.18pm – Arrived at the gym. Booked in and went to get changed.
4.34pm – Finally MADE IT into the Gym, and onto a machine. Went on the running machine, the bike, and the arm bike for 10 minutes each (I actually gave up on the arm bike after just over 5 minutes… this was my 1st trip back to the gym since Baby was born, so struggled somewhat).
5.08pm – Went back to the changing rooms to shower and change. Despite the showers being tepid, weak and having to push the button every 30 seconds to re-start it, they were free of child disturbance (or even the constant anticipation of disturbance), so I took the opportunity for a full hair & body wash & took my time! Also did a full cleanse, tone and moisturise routine, then dressed.
5.33pm – Got in the car.
5.43pm – Arrived at my parents to pick up the children.
6.14pm – Left my parents after gathering up all belonging, hearing about all the fun that had been had and having yet another chat with my parents.
6.18pm – Arrived at the supermarket (as I realised that I had no milk or bread, and there were a few other things that I needed that I might as well get whilst here).
6.40pm – queued to pay.
7.00pm – Drove out of the car park. Monkey was now 2 hours late for dinner, and it was already her bedtime – I didn’t plan my day well at all!!!
7.09pm – Arrived at home and unloaded children, shopping & gym stuff from the car. Unpacked shopping that needed to go in the fridge.
7.15pm – Gave Monkey her dinner.
7.46pm – Cleared up dinner things.
7.47pm – Cleaned Monkey & High Chair.
7.51pm – Started the battle to get Monkey undressed and into her Pyjamas, with her fighting me the whole time.
7.55pm – Brushed Monkey’s teeth. While I used the loo, she removed her own nappy (a first). Put new nappy on her, warmed her milk and she drank this while I read her a story. During this, baby woke and started crying. Tucked Monkey into bed.
8.05pm – Started feeing baby, and almost immediately realised that I had forgotten to give Monkey her inhaler before bed. As she was still awake and singing to herself, I went in and gave her the inhaler.
8.10pm – Continued feeding Baby. Watched Hollyoaks (recorded – my post baby bedtime half an hour when I don’t need to think…).
8.30pm – Having sung to herself since going to bed, Monkey was now crying at the bedroom door. Went to get her. As I was still feeding Baby I allowed her to come and sit on the sofa with me. She tried to bring all of her cuddly toys and a few books with her and had a mini-tantrum that she couldn’t carry them all.
8.38pm – Monkey emptied a box of Duplo all over the living room floor. Suggestions of return to bed were being met with lots of crying.
8.50pm – Changed Baby’s nappy and put him to bed. Monkey was playing with her Duplo on her scooter.
8.54pm – Tried to encourage Monkey to go back to bed. No chance!
8.55pm – Unpack remaining shopping.
9.00pm – Wrote birthday card for next door neighbour, and then played with Monkey to try to tire her out a bit. She then wandered off and I heard her through the monitor talking to Baby! Got her out of my bedroom where Baby sleeps.
9.20pm – Monkey continued to play while I unpacked the baby changing bag and my gym bag.
9.27pm – Monkey finally agreed to go to bed, and trotted off to her room. Kissed her goodnight.
9.29pm – Replaced food bin bag. Started to put away the washing up from last night.
9.32pm – The Dog started barking. This woke Monkey up, and she started crying. I left her for a minute to see if she would go back to sleep and she did. Continued to put away washing up from last night.
9.38pm – Looked up recipe that I had planned for tonights dinner.
9.40pm – Fed the Dog, poured myself a glass of wine, and started cooking dinner.
10.20pm – Husband got home from work.
10.33pm – Dinner was ready (only 3 minutes late – success!!!). Sat down to eat.
10.47pm – Cleared plates and got yoghurts.
10.59pm – Cleared yoghurt pots and wine glass.
11.00pm – Husband & I both collapsed on sofa, exhausted from our days while he channel surfs
11.45pm – Got ready for bed, and woke up baby for night feed.
12.30am – Put baby back to bed and set my alarm for 6am.
12.37am – Monkey woke up. Changed her nappy, and tried to get her to go back to bed. She was crying and determined not to go to bed, so took her to the sofa for a cup of warm milk before trying to talk her into going to bed. Fail!
12.58am – I finally gave in and allowed her into our bed. I have done this on a few occasions, so know that she will be there for a maximum of about 10 minutes before getting fidgetty and wanting to go back to her own bed. However, tonight for the first time, she fell asleep. I then had a restless night until I managed to get her back to her own bed at about 4.30am.
And the whole cycle starts again.
So, in summary, I succeeded in getting to the gym, ironing the husbands work jacket, and putting out 2 of the 4 bins I intended to.
Although I failed to get one washing load hung out, I did manage to get it into the washing basket and get another load into the machine. The kitchen and recycling bins did not get emptied. Yesterdays, or todays washing up did not get done. All the more to get done tomorrow. Despite having seen that I literally filled every minute of my day, I still find it hard to comprehend how I managed to get so little housework done, especially when my targets were so simple and are less than the minimum that I should be doing daily as a housewife. However, I will be showing the husband this post, so he can see that I don’t just sit on my backside doing nothing all day!!!